You may have been told to mind and use the Perfect tenses, to look and sound smart. Beware: there are things I would not tell grandpa, not to look and sound pliable. We can compare some rules on the Present Perfect and reckon.

The matter here comes from the BRITISH COUNCIL.


"We use the present perfect tense:
  • for something that started in the past and continues in the present:
    She has lived in Liverpool all her life.
    Note: We normally use the present perfect continuous for this:
    She has been living in Liverpool all her life.
  • We often use the adverb ever to talk about experience up to the present:
    My last birthday was the worst day I have ever had."

Granny thinks it cannot depend on the adverb ever, to tell if something continues in the present or ends here.

Jemma loves strawberries. If you asked her, when she comes and peeks in the garden usually within the first 15 minutes:
Have you ever missed out on an early crop?
The answer would be no, never, and she is not likely.

Think about grandpa.
You were the most handsome man I have ever met.
He might ask if I have a new man.

We have been living together for some 40 years, and you have never told me you prefer your coffee and cream separate.
He might say he never needed to complain about the proportion, and sound absolutely normal.

Granny thinks it is worth the while to analyze the British Council examples with our variables. Get back with you soon.